“Realizations”
January 9, 2022
“Realizations are futile without a change of heart”
1. There is a time convenient for everyone
-Learn to be sensitive, empathetic and patience. Wait for the due time, there is always time for everything and anything. Don’t pursue your wants or desires in the wrong time. Learn to value the time of others as well as yours. Also, do not expect someone to understand your actuations, because there are times that what you want is just simply to sooth them, to be affectionate to them but for them they may interpret it as you are demanding or pushing your own desires.
2. Action speaks louder than words
-it is a common saying already. But, you can only really determine that action speaks louder than words because of what you can see, observe, or personally experience. For example, someone will say that I am not affected, but the mere fact that you can testify that this person is hurting even if she will not tell or say it to you, it is the truth. Sometimes we are lying on the truth. We can just simply say, no I don’t care about that person anymore, but you are still beside him or her, never leaving him or her
3. If you don’t have something good to say, don’t say a word
Keeping your silence is the best way to do if you don’t have anything good to say or comment. Less talk, less mistake.
4. Give privacy to the person who needed it the most
– give the privacy of someone who needed it. Be sensitive even if that someone who needed it is rude to you. Let it pass.
5. Don’t say “I love you” to the person if he/she is not part of the family or loved ones or closed to you.
Why? Because the person whom you told “I love you” may misinterpret you.
And if they replied “I love you too”, it is so deeply meaningful, then for you it’s normal or natural.
6. Don’t disclose information to a person about your weaknesses
-For example: about your husband, your sex life, your inlaws. keep it to yourself, because there are some people who may use it to their advantage towards you especially if they have hidden agenda. In return, you gonna be the victim.
7. Give importance to what is really important.
Classify the needs, urgency and what can be just ignore
8. Prioritize your family.. child/children.. your husband and the intactness of your love regardless how hard it is sometimes
Bear in mind, that “family first” more than anything in this world, one of my friends told me. It is your family who will defend you whenever you have enemies. They will support you all the way. But I also have some friends that their friends became their families.. So to whom we find the family, we prioritize them, We don’t neglect them over someone or something not really important.
9. It is important not to be blinded by the good things someone may present to you
– There are people you trusted the most, then you share everything to him or her. Every single detail of your life. Thinking that person is doing the same. Then if the time will come that they have the chance to pursue their hidden agendas, they know what to do. They knew what are your weaknesses and strengths. They can come up of a plan on what they are going to do to win your heart. Good things that had been displayed sometimes are not pure, there are hidden agendas, so beware of the people who do things very unusual, not normal and full of hypocrisy.
10. to always detach yourself to people but it doesn’t mean you care less or love less
You should prepare yourself for the things that will happen in the future. Why? So that you will not be sad or get hurt. God is giving us the free will. But He wants us always to choose Him. So, in everyday of our lives it is always about God. No one else. Only He and He alone. We should be attached to Him. Because if we detach from Him, our lives will be void and futile. Therefore, if someone left us, we felt deep emptiness within.
11. Always listen to the inner voice within you, the God within you.
On what you are going to do. Don’t despise. Because the will of God and your will is not the same. So you need to heed, because the will of God and your will should be in rhythm.
12. That, you are not the sundae of someone or anybody, you are just a sprinkle.
Great expectation lead to disappointment. So, don’t expect or assume too much in a relationship or friendship. you might be not of the same feelings or attachments.
These are the effects or results of dealing with someone who is narcissistic. They love bomb you, devalue you, go on silent treatment then discard. Again and again. Until you gonna have Trauma bond and again the cycle continues.
And for the person who has hidden agenda for you. So you should learn to be meticulous , don’t just simply trust.
Hence, ask the Lord for “wisdom”, (from a good friend of mine) a wise person is cautious, patient, prudent, calm, understanding, compassionate and most of all silent. In silence, we can recharge, observe, calculate, analyze, comprehend the things around us.
“Learn to slow down even when everybody around you is busy and in a hurry”.